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Celebrating the Day of the Dead

October 19, 2017 By Dr. Terri Daniel, CT, CCTP

How to Invite your Ancestors to Visit

From our friend Kitty Edwards at The Living and Dying Consciously Project,
here are some tips for creating an altar that will invite your ancestors
to visit you on the Day of the Dead

Communicate with the dead

Mexico’s Day of the Dead celebrations offer us an opportunity to connect with our departed loved ones. This tradition is rooted in ancient harvest festivals throughout the world that have also served as a time of remembrance.

From October 31 to November 2 in the northern hemisphere, it has been customary to take this time to remember that life is short and invite departed spirits to return for a visit encouraged by food, wine and festive decorations. In Mexico, family members return home to vigil in the community cemeteries, feast and tell stories.

I invite you to step into ceremony by creating an ofrenda, an altar for the dead. You’ll find that this annual ritual will enhance your connection to your own life as well as to those who came before.

A traditional ofrenda has multiple levels with an arch above or a decorative backboard. But, small altars are perfectly acceptable.

First you must decide which ancestors, friends or animals you wish to honor on your altar. A photograph of the departed serves as a focal point. You can honor several beloveds on one altar.

Traditional objects on an ofrenda might include:


• Candle – fire is one of the four elements of nature
• Earth – in gratitude to our current home
• Glass of water, soap & towel – to refresh the spirits after their long journey
• Copal – to welcome and guide the visiting spirits
• Paper Banners – flutter in the breeze to represent wind (papel picado)
• Salt – to purify the air
• Flowers – traditionally marigolds and other fall ornamentals
• Food – the beloved’s favorites, fruit and loaves of bread (pan de muerto)
• Beverages – a favorite beer, tequila, coffee or tea
• Personal Objects – clothing, jewelry or mementoes
• Skeletons – traditional sugar skulls or other folk art
• Small Dog – believed to be companions for the dead

Once your altar is created, invite your family and friends over for a feast to tell stories and celebrate the relationships that give our lives meaning.

Filed Under: Communicating with the Dead, Spirituality and Religion

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